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January 18, 2023 misophonia 0
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Misophonia is a condition in which a person has an overly intense reaction to specific, normal sounds: you can’t stand certain sounds.

After reading this piece, you’ll understand what (very likely) causes misophonia and how to get rid of it!

So it doesn’t have to be a lifelong condition for which there is no cure. In this article, you’ll read how.

Misophonia literally means “hatred of sound.” A person with misophonia becomes extremely irritated, angry or one gets another unpleasant feeling from certain normal sounds.

Think of the sound of a belt buckle, a licking dog, shaking a leg, tapping fingers, clicking a pen, eating chips or a smacking child.

What makes you go off the boil. Often it is a specific person where a misophone suffers from these feelings.

Good news, there are two working treatments for it. Read on to discover the cause of and solution to misophonia.

The Cause of Misophonia

Until recently, the cause of misophonia was unknown. And there was no treatment method. But that has all changed with the Unified Brain Model, discovered by Jacob Korthuis.

Hypersensitivity to certain sounds is a reaction of your survival system. Your brain does this automatically.

Following similarities in the now, with unpleasant past events that have not been processed properly.

Simply put: The cause is poorly processed painful or fearful experiences.

The sounds and other stimuli against which you experience distaste are connected to those events.

And because they are painful experiences, you often can’t remember those experiences or partially remember them. As a result, you are not aware of them. And it is precisely for those experiences that EMDR, for example, is not effective.

Read on for an example, where you will immediately sense: yes, this is how it works.

Is it trauma?

With trauma, many people think of big things, like accidents or a trauma helicopter. However, trauma is simply another word for “injury.”

An injury is the result of stress, violence or outside force (physical or mental).

Trauma can be physical and mental. An argument at the dinner table where stress crosses someone’s threshold. That too may produce mental trauma.

Below you can read the example of how such an injury occurs, and why.

New Treatment Method

A new treatment method that resolves misophonia is PMA.

We owe the method to Jacob Korthuis’ discovery of the Unified Brain Model.

With PMA, you process and repair painful events from your life, including those that have been pushed away or that you cannot remember.

That this is how it works is easy to understand with this example.

Imagine a child is not feeling well at dinner. Mom and dad want the child to eat the plate empty. They are eating onion soup.

The tension at the table rises; dad is very strict. That plate has to be empty! Breathing irritably, and looking angry, the father forces the child to eat the onion soup. Mommy adds to it: eat bitch!

The child in this situation, because he feels sick and instinctively knows he should not eat, may experience high stress. The child is simply sick, spitting out the onion soup!

The child experiences great mental pressure, pain and anxiety in this situation. Not only is the child sick, but the child has vomited, and Mom and Dad find that so terribly gross! What will happen next?

The child will store this experience in the body. To avoid this pressure, pain and fear in the future. How the brain and body stores this depends entirely on the child.

It may very well be that the child stores the father’s heavy breathing, as a warning signal. Or the angry look. Or both. Or the words “eat bitch” from mom.

When the father next time at the table, starts breathing or looking the same way, the child then immediately becomes more alert.

This happens automatically. Because these are signals that a painful situation may arise. And for that the child wants to protect itself.

The chance that this child will happily eat onion soup in the future is very small.

Your body trains itself with these reactions, to prevent you from experiencing the same pain and fear again. It does so automatically.

This allows your body to alert you in the future, to prevent the same pain, as in the earlier event, from being experienced again.

As you read this, you will intuitively sense that this is indeed how your body and brain work. Everyone knows examples.

This mechanism is wonderful; it prevents pain and anxiety. But sometimes it gets in the way enormously. For example, when there are stimuli with no chance of pain or fear.

Long story, but: this is how misophonia occurs. The body makes you alert, and it has a good reason to do so: pain or fear from the past.

With misophonia, these sounds become the stimuli that get in your way. Fortunately, we can heal this very well. By detecting these kinds of experiences and then processing them quickly and properly, misophonia stops. This is so because with the PMA questioning technique you can do a great job of healing old pain and fear. Especially those experiences you are not even aware of anymore.

The PMA approach works quickly and well. The younger you are, the faster it works.

Do you suffer from misophonia, or know someone who suffers from it? Contact us now on 06 2523 4901 or fill out the form below or schedule an introductory consultation by pressing the blue button.

The Treatment of Misophonia at the AMC

Until recently, there was no proven working treatment for misophonia. Diagnosis and treatment of misophonia is not in the basic health insurance package, partly for this reason.

The Amsterdam UMC has developed a method to treat misophonia. A treatment that is intensive, costing you half an hour to an hour a day over an extended period of time.

The treatment does several things. It does not address the cause, but teaches you how to deal with it by, among other things, relaxation exercises, stress management and pairing the specific sounds you react so much to with other, more positive sounds (contra-conditioning).

The treatment is effective in about 3 out of 4 people. Unfortunately, as of April 2022, there is no more space: There is an enrollment freeze.

That indicates the great need for treatment. By the way, a tip: exposure, exposing yourself to the sounds or associated stimuli without doing anything else with it should NOT be used with misophonia. It makes it worse if you do nothing else with it. And you can do so much with it.

Is the Miles Barn Misophonia program reimbursed?

Yes, Dutch clients can get the costs reimbursed from the personal budget you apply for at the municipality where you live. Here you can read how to apply for the PGB for you, or your child.

Misophonia not a recognized mental disorder

Strangely, misophonia is not a recognized mental disorder. Because once we do recognize it, it means that the cause of misophonia is partly psychological. And as you read above, it is: the origin lies in painful experiences that have not been processed properly, combined with your specific DNA.

How do you treat misophonia?

You can take various approaches, but the approach we take to resolve misophonia at its core is progressive mental alignment: Heal the underlying mental injury(s). We use no counter-conditioning, no exposure and no coping methodologies.

Is misophonia part of autism?

It could be, but we at Miles Barn look at you as an individual, and not labels that have been put on you. It’s about how you live, and what you’ve experienced in your life. And we work with that.

Can misophonia disappear?

Contrary to many publications stating the opposite, misophonia can indeed disappear. So you don’t have to walk around with it all your life.

Is exposure to the sounds a good treatment method?

Exposure is only a good treatment method if it is done together with the PMA practitioner who then lets you relive the situation(s) and helps you take the negative charge off the stimuli and situations.

Exposure without processing worsens your misophonia and we absolutely advise against it.

Is anger the only feeling that misophonia evokes?

It appears to be anger, but any other emotion can be evoked. Flight, meaning wanting to get away from the room where the sound is, is the other common reaction.

Sound stimuli, fortunately, can also have positive effects. Think of someone saying “I love you” to you, the sound of a kiss, or a song that you have a very fond memory of or get a lot of energy from.

As soon as you hear that (song), the feeling and behavior of that memory is recalled. Therefore, you can then often listen to such a song endlessly.

This is important to realize, because fortunately you also have many stimuli that make you feel better. And progressive mental alignment makes you increasingly aware of those positive stimuli. We call this “working with your friend mechanism.”

Books and resources:

ARTICLE: Misophonia not a recognized disorder

ARTICLE: Amsterdam UMC Psychiatry Misophonia

ARTICLE: EMDR possibly good treatment method misophonia

BOOK: The Unified Brain Model book

BOOK: Inner Power – Learn the progressive mental alignment technique

BOOK: Misophonia Help Book by Arnoud van Loon & Marthe van der Pol

RESEARCH: Dr. Kumar Newcastle University – Misophonia also triggered by visual triggers such as face, mouth & throat https://www.jneurosci.org/content/41/26/5762

VIDEO: The influence of emotions on DNA (and thus disease) – Pierre Capel in conversation with Marlies Dekkers https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8VOdtNewWg


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